HOW DO MOM’S DO IT ALL?

Thanks to social media, we as mothers have these feelings of not doing enough based on what we are seeing in our news feed. Social media has given us a false sense of the reality of motherhood and the expectations of what our role looks like. I call this “Mom Guilt”. And I have to talk myself out of it about 10 times a day.

Mom guilt comes to us when we aren’t giving our kids 100% of our attention, or feeding them healthy meals, or throwing them Pinterest worthy parties, or planning epic family vacations, or being the mom we see other moms being on the internet. But the truth is God gave us our children because they needed US. And we are all they need. Just the way we are.

So instead of comparing, just decide what things you value as a mother to your family and focus on those. We all have the same hours in a day and same days in a week. But what we choose as our priorities will help us decide where we put our focus.

YOU DON’T DO IT ALL… YOU DO WHAT’S IMPORTANT.

It took me being a “Stay At Home Mom” to figure out that I didn’t have to do it all. I didn’t have to make gourmet meals every night, or have an influencer styled home, and most importantly I didn’t have to say “YES” to everything we were invited to. I could limit my kids activities, and make sure to leave time for us as a family. I could ask other moms to help when I couldn’t be in two places at once. Our home could be “lived in” and not perfectly maintained at all times. Someday those messes will be gone and so will my kids. So from this day forward I plan to take full advantage of the years I get them in my home by spending quality time together making memories, messes and all.

IF WE CAN’T DO IT ALL, WHERE DO I WANT TO FOCUS MY TIME?

I want to focus on our families healthy habits, meal prep and exercise to keep their bodies feeling their best in this crazy stressful world. I want to create traditions and memories, a lot of those involving a crowded table with food we all helped prepare. I want to teach my children to do good in this world and help others, that their lives were meant for a purpose greater than their own desires. I want to teach my children an appreciation for the small things like nature and the world God has given us, without the small things our world would be a sad place. I want to teach my kids to really connect with others and to put our phones down more, an entire world out there awaits our discovery and if our face is always in our phone we will miss so much of it.

Of course I won’t be able to focus on all of them at once, but little by little over the 18 years they are living with me, may my kids get a good taste of these things in their lives so they may pass them onto their own families someday. I hope to look back on my life and say I made an impact and left memories to be cherished forever. I hope this blog helps inspire other moms to simplify their daily lives, and find their priorities in their families. We get one life, make it count every day!